If you know anything about genetics, there comes a time you wished you hadn’t. That time is called the holidays. Nothing brings you closer to a genetics study without having to spend valuable time in the lab, than having Thanksgiving dinner with your family. I’m so looking forward to it.
People either really like me, or really don’t. I don’t have fair weathered friends…at least not for long.
When I started looking for Tai Chi schools in Lexington, I really didn’t expect to find much. While there seems to be a burgeoning Tai Chi community the closer you get to Louisville, I was right, there wasn’t much in Lexington. I have put out a couple of feelers to teachers, but haven’t heard anything yet. But, coming back to the more peaceful me does involve doing things that have created peace, and Tai Chi is one of them. If I could just get someone to work one-on-one with me to refresh the moves, I’d be fine. I’m really revved up about this.
What was interesting about my search though is that I came across a website for a dance class similar to those I have taken or taught in the past. It was labeled as A New Dance Workout for the Body, Mind & Soul. IN LEXINGTON? Yes, in Lexington. Will wonders never cease. There might be hope for this city yet. Either the new age movement is making more headway in Lexington, or more new age people are moving in. Either one stuns me.
Replace toilet paper in downstairs bathroom before the SpongeBob Klenex dispenser is empty!
Another day full of self discovery and making friends/enemies.
Since Ari is feeling much better now and is not attached at the hip, I decided to design a Halloween collage of him. I went to add that to my profile on a now useless piece of shit site and noticed that the quote I had used on there was a bit outdated. So, what did I do?…spent way too much friggin time on a quotations site. But, found lots of quotes I loved. Here they are:
I respect faith, but doubt is what gets you an education.
Don’t worry about people stealing an idea. If it’s original, you will have to ram it down their throats.
Insist on yourself; never imitate… Every great man is unique.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882)
The self is not something ready-made, but something in continuous formation through choice of action.
There is no discipline in the world so severe as the discipline of experience subjected to the tests of intelligent development and direction.
We cannot seek or attain health, wealth, learning, justice or kindness in general. Action is always specific, concrete, individualized, unique.
~John Dewey (1859 – 1952)
Learning to ignore things is one of the great paths to inner peace.
~Robert J. Sawyer
Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.
He enjoys true leisure who has time to improve his soul’s estate.
~Henry David Thoreau
Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgment.
Men of ill judgment oft ignore the good
That lies within their hands, till they have lost it.
I’m not intending to imply insult or judgment here but I am curious to know in order to be able to respond to your posts in an appropriate manner, so please forgive what appears to be, but in fact is not intended as, an insulting question: Are you stupid?
The one whose judgment counts most in your life is the one staring back in the glass.
A great philosophy is not one that passes final judgments and establishes ultimate truth. It is one that causes uneasiness and starts commotion.
How little do they see what really is, who frame their hasty judgments upon that which seems.
In dwelling, live close to the ground.
In thinking, keep to the simple.
In conflict, be fair and generous.
In governing, don’t try to control.
In work, do what you enjoy.
In family life, be completely present.
~Tao Te Ching
Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.
~William Ellery Channing
Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.
~Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Anger, 1985
Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.
A wise man gets more use from his enemies than a fool from his friends.
I have never made but one prayer to God, a very short one: ‘O Lord, make my enemies ridiculous.’ And God granted it.
Roam abroad in the world, and take thy fill of its enjoyments before the day shall come when thou must quit it for good.
There are many things of which a wise man might wish to be ignorant.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
I have always loved truth so passionately that I have often resorted to lying as a way of introducing it into the minds which were ignorant of its charms.
~Giovanni Jacopo Casanova
Don’t mind criticism. If it is untrue, disregard it; if unfair, keep from irritation; if it is ignorant, smile; if it is justified it is not criticism, learn from it.
To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.
Criticism is the disapproval of people, not for having faults, but having faults different from your own.
Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.
It is very difficult to live among people you love and hold back from offering them advice.
People who ask our advice almost never take it. Yet we should never refuse to give it, upon request, for it often helps us to see our own way more clearly.
Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t.
The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right.
~Hannah Whitall Smith
Examine what is said, not him who speaks.
When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends.
Who can protest and does not, is an accomplice in the act.
God is a comedian playing to an audience too afraid to laugh.
Love truth, and pardon error.
Man is free at the moment he wishes to be.
Common sense is not so common.
If God created us in his own image, we have more than reciprocated.
Divide and rule, a sound motto. Unite and lead, a better one.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
There is nothing more frightful than ignorance in action.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
We do not have to visit a madhouse to find disordered minds; our planet is the mental institution of the universe.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.
I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a b*tch, okay.
I have a brain and a uterus and I use both.
Sometimes I worry about being a success in a mediocre world.
I’m not feeling sorry for myself. I’m wondering why I always get myself into things I really never wanted any part of. I’m learning a lot about that lately.
Recently, I’ve felt a little slighted by a couple of women on a bulletin board to which I participate. I had my coffee yesterday, sat down with an open slate on MS Word and started penning a letter to the two women, describing when I thought their level of interest in me and my posts waned and what I thought was the cause of this. Then I stopped, looked at this letter and promptly deleted it. Why was I writing this letter?
I was about to start down a rocky road I had taken so many times before. As a strong personality, I created a situation where these women were truly starting to dislike me because of my speaking the truth. Instead of letting it just bother them, I let their reaction bother me. It might be important to clarify my intent or to elaborate if these were established friends or family. But, these are two women I have neither met, nor probably have the opportunity to meet.
What really bothers me about this? Herd mentality. Them talking to others and rallying against me. I don’t care if people don’t like me…that’s life. I do care that some people simply take the words of others instead of dealing with me directly and forming their own opinion.
Strong personalities are often burdened by the misperception of others that they are unapproachable. That simply isn’t true. Strong personalities are usually MORE open to constructive criticism and opinions of others. Speaking for myself, I respect others who can voice their opinion, particularly if it’s in opposition to my own.
The world of online bulletin boards has often been a savior for me, especially with regard to raising my son. But, like with anything online, there is a lot that’s lost in the translation of technology. As a society who relies on intonation to gauge the meaning of a conversation, online discussion often falls short. Yesterday, I took the first step toward not putting myself in the precarious situations I have ended up in before.
A “No” uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a “Yes” merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble.
Everything you want to know about me and more.
- Born and raised in Chicago, Illinois then moved to…
- Austin, Texas for 11 years
- Dumfries, Virginia (D.C. Area) for 7 months
- Baltimore, Maryland for a little over 1 year
- Highland Heights, Kentucky (Cinci Area) to train for new job overseas
- Brussels, Belgium to work far too long for sadistic and psychotic MD, PhD
- Back to the U.S.A. in 2000 to Lexington, Kentucky
- Finally on to Columbus, Ohio, where I reside now
- I call “Chicago” home
- I was married from 2000 – 2014
- I have two sons, named Ari (Aug. ’02) and Joshua (Sept. ’05)
- I have 2 dogs, Marinda & Loki II, South African Boerboels
- I speak passable Spanish, French and a tiny bit of Dutch, Hebrew & Norwegian
- I am 45 Years Old
- I had platinum blonde hair through most of my childhood
- I am a graduate student in counseling & substance use disorder (was pre-med)
- My favorite author is Henry David Thoreau
- My favorite book, currently, is The Gifts of Imperfection
- I don’t have a favorite color
- I adore coffee and seek a favorite cafe in every city
- I like board games but don’t go out of my way to play them
- Maple Walnut, my favorite ice cream, is very hard to find
- I worked as a volunteer emergency vet tech for nearly 2 years
- I’m a huge Jeremy Piven fan
- I get excited about thunderstorms
- I’ve dyed my hair fuschia pink (punk years)
- My high-school entrance exams were high enough to be admitted to college
- I have 3 half siblings named Wayne, James & Susan. They all live in Illinois
- I am colorblind which, for a woman, is rare
- It’s almost impossible for me to fall asleep in moving vehicles
- I facilitated dance classes, which use the work of Gabrielle Roth, in Austin
- I hung out with a car club when I was 16
- I converted to Judaism in 1999 after the process of almost 8 years
- I have been on fire and, obviously, survived
- I think that Vietnamese food rocks and I usually have Pho
- My favorite number is 13
- I used to be a licensed cosmetologist specializing in skin care
- I would never want to be left in a room with Dr. Evan Stein and a sharp object
- I wrote, casted and produced a play when I was 8 years old
- The two beers I like most are Kasteel & Heinekin Tawrebok
- My favorite red wine is Liberty School Cabernet
- My favorite white wine is Via Sattui’s Off-Dry Riesling
- I was the vice president of my high-school riding club
- I have Chinese food delivered once per week
- My first album was “The Grand Illusion” by Styx
- I have the tendency to be overtly arrogant and covertly proud
- The movie Sixteen Candles, happened to me (minus the hottie at the end)
- I am an HBO junkie
- I used to run about 25 miles per week
- I once despised Bill Maher, who is now a favorite after moving to HBO
- If given the choice of beach, city, country, or mountains, I would choose the beach
- The first concert I attended was a Sean Cassidy concert
- Autumn is my favorite season
- I have 7 piercings in my ears, though I usually only wear one set
- I am not intimidated by anyone
- My first love was Chris Simmons
- The human characteristic I value most is authenticity
- Gladiola is my favorite flower
- I don’t like diamonds
- My favorite precious stone is sapphire
- Playing blackjack in a casino is one of the biggest rushes for me
- I’ve been writing poetry since I was 7 years old
- I took violin lessons in grade school
- The fist rated R movie I saw was Caddyshack – I was 13
- I have met Wonder Woman, Lynda Carter
- I played the Grand Prize game on Bozo’s Circus
- My dream car is… (don’t know anymore, ha)
- I taught myself data analysis to the extent of earning $40k + benefits
- I was an art major in high-school
- One of my best features is my voice
- I find incredible peace using Tai Chi
- My favorite vacation was any time I was in the Netherlands
- My first car was an AMC Hornet otherwise known as “the piece of crap”
- I never thought I would get married, and was OK with that
- I was in a rock opera when I was 14
- I hate reading books, but am well read
- I’ve never met a cat that didn’t like me
- I have skinny dipped during a party
- I smoked for 10 years and quit 16 years ago
- I was gifted a pair of Minnie Mouse ears to wear when I’m taking myself too seriously
- I have made love in the Atlantic Ocean
- I collect Starbucks City Mugs
- I have no tattoos
- Born to Be Wild by Steppenwolf was released on the day I was born
- My biggest pet peeve is someone talking with their mouth full
- I am a control freak
- My favorite tree is a Weeping Willow
- I respect people who push the envelope and challenge normalcy
- I think every person could benefit from therapy
- I remember my family’s first color television
- I am the first in my family to graduate college
- I took the LSAT, but never went to law school
- I have enough college credits to have a Ph.D.
- I would love to own a house in Den Haag
- My favorite music is EDM