Nuckin’ Futs

If you know anything about genetics, there comes a time you wished you hadn’t. That time is called the holidays. Nothing brings you closer to a genetics study without having to spend valuable time in the lab, than having Thanksgiving dinner with your family. I’m so looking forward to it.

Tai Chi? Expressive Arts? In Kentucky?

When I started looking for Tai Chi schools in Lexington, I really didn’t expect to find much. While there seems to be a burgeoning Tai Chi community the closer you get to Louisville, I was right, there wasn’t much in Lexington. I have put out a couple of feelers to teachers, but haven’t heard anything yet. But, coming back to the more peaceful me does involve doing things that have created peace, and Tai Chi is one of them. If I could just get someone to work one-on-one with me to refresh the moves, I’d be fine. I’m really revved up about this.

What was interesting about my search though is that I came across a website for a dance class similar to those I have taken or taught in the past. It was labeled as A New Dance Workout for the Body, Mind & Soul. IN LEXINGTON? Yes, in Lexington. Will wonders never cease. There might be hope for this city yet. Either the new age movement is making more headway in Lexington, or more new age people are moving in. Either one stuns me.

What the…?

Another day full of self discovery and making friends/enemies.

Since Ari is feeling much better now and is not attached at the hip, I decided to design a Halloween collage of him. I went to add that to my profile on a now useless piece of shit site and noticed that the quote I had used on there was a bit outdated. So, what did I do?…spent way too much friggin time on a quotations site. But, found lots of quotes I loved. Here they are:

I respect faith, but doubt is what gets you an education.
~Wilson Mizner

Don’t worry about people stealing an idea. If it’s original, you will have to ram it down their throats.
~Howard Aiken

Insist on yourself; never imitate… Every great man is unique.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882)

The self is not something ready-made, but something in continuous formation through choice of action.
~John Dewey

There is no discipline in the world so severe as the discipline of experience subjected to the tests of intelligent development and direction.
~John Dewey

We cannot seek or attain health, wealth, learning, justice or kindness in general. Action is always specific, concrete, individualized, unique.
~John Dewey (1859 – 1952)

Learning to ignore things is one of the great paths to inner peace.
~Robert J. Sawyer

Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.
~Aldous Huxley

He enjoys true leisure who has time to improve his soul’s estate.
~Henry David Thoreau

Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgment.
~Barry LePatner

Men of ill judgment oft ignore the good
That lies within their hands, till they have lost it.
~Sophocles

I’m not intending to imply insult or judgment here but I am curious to know in order to be able to respond to your posts in an appropriate manner, so please forgive what appears to be, but in fact is not intended as, an insulting question: Are you stupid?
~Melinda Shore

The one whose judgment counts most in your life is the one staring back in the glass.
~Unknown

A great philosophy is not one that passes final judgments and establishes ultimate truth. It is one that causes uneasiness and starts commotion.
~Charles Peguy

How little do they see what really is, who frame their hasty judgments upon that which seems.
~Robert Southey

In dwelling, live close to the ground.
In thinking, keep to the simple.
In conflict, be fair and generous.
In governing, don’t try to control.
In work, do what you enjoy.
In family life, be completely present.
~Tao Te Ching

Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.
~William Ellery Channing

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.
~Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Anger, 1985

Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.
~Cherie Carter-Scott

A wise man gets more use from his enemies than a fool from his friends.
~Baltasar Gracian

I have never made but one prayer to God, a very short one: ‘O Lord, make my enemies ridiculous.’ And God granted it.
~Voltaire

Roam abroad in the world, and take thy fill of its enjoyments before the day shall come when thou must quit it for good.
~Saadi

There are many things of which a wise man might wish to be ignorant.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

I have always loved truth so passionately that I have often resorted to lying as a way of introducing it into the minds which were ignorant of its charms.
~Giovanni Jacopo Casanova

Don’t mind criticism. If it is untrue, disregard it; if unfair, keep from irritation; if it is ignorant, smile; if it is justified it is not criticism, learn from it.
~Author Unknown

To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.
~Elbert Hubbard

Criticism is the disapproval of people, not for having faults, but having faults different from your own.
~Author Unknown

Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.
~Eleanor Roosevelt

It is very difficult to live among people you love and hold back from offering them advice.
~Anne Tyler

People who ask our advice almost never take it. Yet we should never refuse to give it, upon request, for it often helps us to see our own way more clearly.
~Brendan Francis

Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t.
~Erica Jong

The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right.
~Hannah Whitall Smith

Examine what is said, not him who speaks.
~Arab Proverb

When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends.
~Japanese Proverb

Who can protest and does not, is an accomplice in the act.
~The Talmud

God is a comedian playing to an audience too afraid to laugh.
~Voltaire

Love truth, and pardon error.
~Voltaire

Man is free at the moment he wishes to be.
~Voltaire

Common sense is not so common.
~Voltaire

If God created us in his own image, we have more than reciprocated.
~Voltaire

Divide and rule, a sound motto. Unite and lead, a better one.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

There is nothing more frightful than ignorance in action.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

We do not have to visit a madhouse to find disordered minds; our planet is the mental institution of the universe.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
~Eleanor Roosevelt

People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.
~Eleanor Roosevelt

I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a b*tch, okay.
~Madonna

I have a brain and a uterus and I use both.
~Patricia Schroeder

Sometimes I worry about being a success in a mediocre world.
~Lily Tomlin

Why me?

I’m not feeling sorry for myself. I’m wondering why I always get myself into things I really never wanted any part of. I’m learning a lot about that lately.

Recently, I’ve felt a little slighted by a couple of women on a bulletin board to which I participate. I had my coffee yesterday, sat down with an open slate on MS Word and started penning a letter to the two women, describing when I thought their level of interest in me and my posts waned and what I thought was the cause of this. Then I stopped, looked at this letter and promptly deleted it. Why was I writing this letter?

I was about to start down a rocky road I had taken so many times before. As a strong personality, I created a situation where these women were truly starting to dislike me because of my speaking the truth. Instead of letting it just bother them, I let their reaction bother me. It might be important to clarify my intent or to elaborate if these were established friends or family. But, these are two women I have neither met, nor probably have the opportunity to meet.

What really bothers me about this? Herd mentality. Them talking to others and rallying against me. I don’t care if people don’t like me…that’s life. I do care that some people simply take the words of others instead of dealing with me directly and forming their own opinion.

Strong personalities are often burdened by the misperception of others that they are unapproachable. That simply isn’t true. Strong personalities are usually MORE open to constructive criticism and opinions of others. Speaking for myself, I respect others who can voice their opinion, particularly if it’s in opposition to my own.

The world of online bulletin boards has often been a savior for me, especially with regard to raising my son. But, like with anything online, there is a lot that’s lost in the translation of technology. As a society who relies on intonation to gauge the meaning of a conversation, online discussion often falls short. Yesterday, I took the first step toward not putting myself in the precarious situations I have ended up in before.

A “No” uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a “Yes” merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble.
~Mahatma Gandhi

95 Things About Me (updated 8-6-14)

Everything you want to know about me and more.

  1. Born and raised in Chicago, Illinois then moved to…
  2. Austin, Texas for 11 years
  3. Dumfries, Virginia (D.C. Area) for 7 months
  4. Baltimore, Maryland for a little over 1 year
  5. Highland Heights, Kentucky (Cinci Area) to train for new job overseas
  6. Brussels, Belgium to work far too long for sadistic and psychotic MD, PhD
  7. Back to the U.S.A. in 2000 to Lexington, Kentucky
  8. Finally on to Columbus, Ohio, where I reside now
  9. I call “Chicago” home
  10. I was married from 2000 – 2014
  11. I have two sons, named Ari (Aug. ’02) and Joshua (Sept. ’05)
  12. I have 2 dogs, Marinda & Loki II, South African Boerboels
  13. I speak passable Spanish, French and a tiny bit of Dutch, Hebrew & Norwegian
  14. I am 45 Years Old
  15. I had platinum blonde hair through most of my childhood
  16. I am a graduate student in counseling & substance use disorder (was pre-med)
  17. My favorite author is Henry David Thoreau
  18. My favorite book, currently, is The Gifts of Imperfection
  19. I don’t have a favorite color
  20. I adore coffee and seek a favorite cafe in every city
  21. I like board games but don’t go out of my way to play them
  22. Maple Walnut, my favorite ice cream, is very hard to find
  23. I worked as a volunteer emergency vet tech for nearly 2 years
  24. I’m a huge Jeremy Piven fan
  25. I get excited about thunderstorms
  26. I’ve dyed my hair fuschia pink (punk years)
  27. My high-school entrance exams were high enough to be admitted to college
  28. I have 3 half siblings named Wayne, James & Susan. They all live in Illinois
  29. I am colorblind which, for a woman, is rare
  30. It’s almost impossible for me to fall asleep in moving vehicles
  31. I facilitated dance classes, which use the work of Gabrielle Roth, in Austin
  32. I hung out with a car club when I was 16
  33. I converted to Judaism in 1999 after the process of almost 8 years
  34. I have been on fire and, obviously, survived
  35. I think that Vietnamese food rocks and I usually have Pho
  36. My favorite number is 13
  37. I used to be a licensed cosmetologist specializing in skin care
  38. I would never want to be left in a room with Dr. Evan Stein and a sharp object
  39. I wrote, casted and produced a play when I was 8 years old
  40. The two beers I like most are Kasteel & Heinekin Tawrebok
  41. My favorite red wine is Liberty School Cabernet
  42. My favorite white wine is Via Sattui’s Off-Dry Riesling
  43. I was the vice president of my high-school riding club
  44. I have Chinese food delivered once per week
  45. My first album was “The Grand Illusion” by Styx
  46. I have the tendency to be overtly arrogant and covertly proud
  47. The movie Sixteen Candles, happened to me (minus the hottie at the end)
  48. I am an HBO junkie
  49. I used to run about 25 miles per week
  50. I once despised Bill Maher, who is now a favorite after moving to HBO
  51. If given the choice of beach, city, country, or mountains, I would choose the beach
  52. The first concert I attended was a Sean Cassidy concert
  53. Autumn is my favorite season
  54. I have 7 piercings in my ears, though I usually only wear one set
  55. I am not intimidated by anyone
  56. My first love was Chris Simmons
  57. The human characteristic I value most is authenticity
  58. Gladiola is my favorite flower
  59. I don’t like diamonds
  60. My favorite precious stone is sapphire
  61. Playing blackjack in a casino is one of the biggest rushes for me
  62. I’ve been writing poetry since I was 7 years old
  63. I took violin lessons in grade school
  64. The fist rated R movie I saw was Caddyshack – I was 13
  65. I have met Wonder Woman, Lynda Carter
  66. I played the Grand Prize game on Bozo’s Circus
  67. My dream car is… (don’t know anymore, ha)
  68. I taught myself data analysis to the extent of earning $40k + benefits
  69. I was an art major in high-school
  70. One of my best features is my voice
  71. I find incredible peace using Tai Chi
  72. My favorite vacation was any time I was in the Netherlands
  73. My first car was an AMC Hornet otherwise known as “the piece of crap”
  74. I never thought I would get married, and was OK with that
  75. I was in a rock opera when I was 14
  76. I hate reading books, but am well read
  77. I’ve never met a cat that didn’t like me
  78. I have skinny dipped during a party
  79. I smoked for 10 years and quit 16 years ago
  80. I was gifted a pair of Minnie Mouse ears to wear when I’m taking myself too seriously
  81. I have made love in the Atlantic Ocean
  82. I collect Starbucks City Mugs
  83. I have no tattoos
  84. Born to Be Wild by Steppenwolf was released on the day I was born
  85. My biggest pet peeve is someone talking with their mouth full
  86. I am a control freak
  87. My favorite tree is a Weeping Willow
  88. I respect people who push the envelope and challenge normalcy
  89. I think every person could benefit from therapy
  90. I remember my family’s first color television
  91. I am the first in my family to graduate college
  92. I took the LSAT, but never went to law school
  93. I have enough college credits to have a Ph.D.
  94. I would love to own a house in Den Haag
  95. My favorite music is EDM